On Saturday, 20 July, I finally kissed my teenage years goodbye and I did so with a spectacular day, night and wee-morning-hour out with a few friends. For many the prospect of growing up (actually aging) is daunting, but I’ve found that I have always welcomed it. I think for the most part this has been due to the lessons which I have learnt with each passing year. I was vain enough to think that I would do a countdown of 20 lessons I have learnt in my 20 years of life like two of my favourite ladies Janine Jellars and Nonhle Beryl, but laziness got the better of me. I do however want to share a lesson about emotions which I might have mentioned in a previous post.
No one exists entirely on their own. At one point or another (daily for most of us) we have to deal with people. As can be expected, we all come into contact with others, bearing our own problems, emotions and general bullshit. However we all have different ways of dealing with it. I have always found that my approach has been to not make my problems someone else’s, a lesson my mother taught me. Many times when you’re in a bad mood, that bad energy becomes contagious and the next person catches it and the next and the next. You end up with a bunch of people feeling down in the dumps.
We all need to be responsible for the energy we bring to others. We need to be aware of our emotions, especially if they are negative. Just because you’re going through a bad day doesn’t give you the right to ruin someone else’s. Respond to greetings with a smile. Be polite. In the same way we also need to be careful of giving the power to control our emotions to other people. Don’t let someone else have power over your emotions if they are not going to be responsible or have your best interests at heart with that power. All in all, be responsible of your energy. Be in control of your emotions.
Peace and love!