In a video I shared a few weeks ago, Dr Phil says that the golden rule “do unto others as you would want done unto you” is one sided in the sense that it is only what we can do, but it is not what we should automatically expect from others. I’ve found this to be entirely true each time I have had to deal with someone who has treated me the complete opposite to how I have treated them. When you are nice to people, you expect them to be nice to you in return. Unfortunately that is not how things work. We can not control how others treat us. So what does one do?
If you have tried to change how someone treats you, but have had no luck, you need to start determining exactly what kind of treatment you will accept from certain people. Understanding what you can change and what you can’t is the key to solving this problem. If you want friends that respect you, don’t upgrade people who don’t respect you to the level of friends. Instead go as far as reducing those who don’t respect you to the level of being a pal. This way your expectations on the kind of treatment you get from those you call your friends is almost guaranteed.
This is just one lesson that I have learnt last week while I am trying to take back ownership of my life without being too much of a control freak. So I have since altered the golden rule to “do unto others what you would want done unto you, but don’t always expect it.”
Here’s that video again…