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Stages and Phases

Im the cute one in the back :-)

I found this kindergarten photo (I’m the ONLY black kid in the back. LOL) and I just think its so ironic that I found it at this stage of my life. Albums are memory thieves in the sense that I had forgotten about this stage of my life till I saw an album with this picture in.

I’m 18 years old now, in the picture I was probably 4 years old. The little boy in that picture was very bright for his age. At that stage many people already knew that he was meant to be MORE in this life. Many even had their own dreams for him. He probably had dreams for himself too – at this time I have no idea what they could be – but I’m sure he did have dreams. What is remarkable though, is that reaching your dreams requires for you to go through different phases. Some phases will be tougher than others, some more pleasant. The main thing is to grow regardless of how it is or might have been.

I’m entering a new phase and stage in my life right now. As of the 2nd of December until the 23rd I will be going through initiation to become a man. All I know about the process so far is that there will be circumcision involved. Some people have asked me if I’m not terrified by the idea and I am not. I’m one of those people who tend to experience emotions at a delayed pace. Maybe I will be terrified the day before circumcision. The other thing that I do know is that my head will be shaved. My afro is in its glory days but it has to go, at least for now. That idea also doesn’t terrify me because change is good… or so i believe.

Many people have also asked me why I’m doing it. As much as it is part of my culture and tradition, I do not feel obliged nor have I been forced. Its a personal decision I made. If I don’t go, I will always wonder what the purpose of the whole “becoming a man” thing is. What I am positive about though is that I will come back a better person. When I made the decision to do it, I asked myself an important question that as humans, we should ask ourselves in all that we do. “Does this serve me?” and I decided that i would make it serve me.

With each stage (and experience) it is important to ask yourself how you can use it to improve on the person that you are. Regardless of the condition or situation. Even bad phases and stages have a lesson in them. Allow the phase that you are going through to be your teacher. That “everything-happens-for-a-reason” cliché is true and that reason should serve you.



Side note: I’m definitely excited about shaving my hair and will definitely write something about it and post pics.

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Richmond Sajini is a musician and media entrepreneur in the public relations, television, radio and retail spaces in South Africa. He studied Public Relations and Communication at the University of Johannesburg and has worked on brands such as Coca Cola, Tsogo Sun, Heineken as well as the South African National Roads Agency. He has been told to shut up many times by people who don’t understand that he is in love with the sound of his own voice. For this reason he decided to start his own blog where he would share his thoughts and experiences without inhibition. Visit his blog, and follow him on Twitter @richmondsajini.


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  1. Hope Ramphabana (@IamMissHope)

    You looked so nunus nchooooooo

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