Learning that not everybody wishes me well is probably one of the best lessons I have learnt since moving to the city. In small towns achievements are generally celebrated as if the whole collective achieved whereas in the city it is the opposite. Of course small towns also have their fair share of envious people but I’ve found it to be even more prevalent in the city. Another lessons that I have learnt from living in Johannesburg is that there are people who are heart and until they have dealt with their own hurt, you will be their target. They will try to hurt and damage you too. It has nothing to do with you, but it has everything to do with their own unresolved issues.
The video below comes from a recent episode of Oprah’s Lifeclass where Dr Phil speaks to Mandisa about toxic friends and he continues to share profound truths about why it is important to be your own best friend. The things he mentions were (unknowingly, unnoticeably and coincidentally) helpful towards me learning the abovementioned lessons.
Have you ever had to deal with toxic friends? How did you go about it?
P.S: I wonder if Mandisa is South African.
P.P.S: I would actually get a TV if we had OWN in South Africa. The short YouTube video updates will have to do for now.
