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Anger vs Bitterness vs Forgiveness

I’ve been warned against writing these motivational/inspirational posts as they tend to get boring. I still feel compelled to write the inspirational pick-me-up type of things because I’ve been through quite a lot and I am yet to experience many things. So this is my way of preparing myself, and you, for the future.

What I want to talk about today is anger and bitterness. After watching Oprah (love her) interview Tyler Perry, I picked up some things that I could relate to. This is always the case with Oprah, her shows are relatable to millions of people. Nevertheless, this is what I learnt.

Tyler was abused by his father.

Something that Tyler said during the interview was that anger is good, bitterness isn’t. I found this to be so true. The effect of anger depends on how you respond to it. For example, when I am angry I become extremely quiet and read/write a lot. That is a positive response. But if I’m bitter about something, how do I respond to it in a way that will be beneficial to me?

Tyler also said that forgiving someone doesn’t mean that you want them in your life. I had an “aha moment” here. Often we hold grudges because there is a misconception that when we forgive someone, we are welcoming them back into our lives. Tyler also went on to say that forgiveness is not for the other person. It is for YOU so that YOU can be free.

So if you have a grudge against someone, ask yourself whether its bitterness or anger. How can you use it to your advantage? Does it serve you or not?

That’s my pep-talk for now,

Love & awesomeness


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Richmond Sajini is a musician and media entrepreneur in the public relations, television, radio and retail spaces in South Africa. He studied Public Relations and Communication at the University of Johannesburg and has worked on brands such as Coca Cola, Tsogo Sun, Heineken as well as the South African National Roads Agency. He has been told to shut up many times by people who don’t understand that he is in love with the sound of his own voice. For this reason he decided to start his own blog where he would share his thoughts and experiences without inhibition. Visit his blog, and follow him on Twitter @richmondsajini.


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